To gain a deeper understanding of the principles that shape our love and relationships, we asked five experts to share the wisdom they learned from their families. With insights from a Certified Psychology Expert and C-Suite Executives, we explore principles ranging from emphasizing empathy in communication to adopting the principle of Open-Source Love.
Emphasize Empathy in Communication
Growing up, one principle I learned about love and relationships was the importance of “listening with the intent to understand, not just to respond.” It sounds simple, but in practice, when we truly listen, we create a safe space for genuine empathy and understanding. It’s not just about hearing words; it’s about connecting with the emotions and intentions behind them.
- Bayu Prihandito, Certified Psychology Expert, Life Coach, Founder, Life Architekture
Prioritize Regular Emotional Check-Ins
Life gets incredibly busy, especially with kids in the picture. I learned from my family that no matter how hectic the day gets, you must always fit those moments in to check in with your partner, hear about their day, and share your own stories. It can really serve as a recharge for yourself and your partner, which is always nice, but it also maintains a healthy bond that tends to be a bedrock for your long-term happiness. - Scott Sidders, Co-Founder, Scott & Yanling Media Inc.
Foster Open and Respectful Communication
Growing up in my family, one love and relationship principle that was deeply ingrained in me was the importance of communication. My parents always emphasized the significance of open, honest, and respectful communication in any relationship. They taught me that listening actively and expressing your thoughts and feelings openly can prevent misunderstandings and strengthen emotional connections. This principle has stayed with me and has been instrumental in my personal relationships, as well as in Total Shape. We believe in fostering transparent communication within our team, which ultimately contributes to our success. - Isaac Robertson, Co-Founder and Nutritionist, Total Shape
Support Individual Growth Within Relationships
One love and relationship principle I learned from my family is the importance of maintaining independence and allowing for personal growth within a relationship. While it is crucial to nurture the bond and spend quality time together, individuals should also have the freedom to pursue their own passions, interests, and personal development. This principle ensures that both partners can grow as individuals, which ultimately strengthens the relationship. For example, my parents always encouraged each other to pursue their hobbies and goals outside of their marriage. They recognized that by supporting each other’s individual growth, they were contributing to the overall well-being of the relationship. This principle helped them maintain a sense of identity and fulfillment, while still being deeply committed to each other. - Yoana Wong, Co-Founder, Secret Florists
Adopt the Principle of Open-Source Love
Applying to my love life what I’ve learned as a tech CEO, I adhere to a principle of open-source love: giving and sharing without expecting strict reciprocity, much like open-source code shared freely in the tech world. Everyone can access it, build upon it, and contribute to the overall improvement. A relationship based on this principle is about nurturing, evolving, and helping each other grow, similar to how developers contribute to open-source projects. - Abid Salahi, Co-Founder and CEO, FinlyWealth