Do you feel uncomfortable with change? Do you feel like it’s hard to make changes? If so, what if I told you that change is not only necessary for your growth, but it is also necessary for the world to grow? For people to thrive, we need routine and habits. When change interrupts the life we’re used to, we can feel it physically, emotionally and behaviourally. So it makes sense to feel things like stress, anxiety, and depression in the wake of any change.
It is natural to feel discomfort when you are faced with change. But it is important not to let that discomfort deter you from making positive changes in your life. Change is inevitable. The only thing that’s constant in life is change. Ironic right? Here are three reasons why you might feel uncomfortable and what you can do about it:
You may feel like the new changes are too much for you and your current lifestyle.
Ah, the ol’ comfort zone. It essentially exists to make us feel safe and warm and when we feel safe and warm, why would we want to explore the world beyond? We know what to expect here. Even when it feels like crap, we know what to expect with said crap. If our lives are unfulfilled and monotonous every day, we know when we wake up, that that is the kind of day we are going to have. Throwing in some changes will shift us out of our comfort zone. We might even experience days with spontaneity and happiness. If you’ve never felt those things, you might not understand. People around you might not understand. Change can certainly be a lonely place at times. You might find that people you once had so much in common with, you no longer click. The things you did to once fill your time, you no longer have time for. This might sound very drastic but change doesn’t have to be a life tipping spanner in the works. You can work on implementing one or two smaller changes at a time. Baby steps forward are still steps forward.
You may feel like the new changes will take a lot of time and effort, but will not have any immediate benefits.
Let’s refer to change like we do with physical exercise. Sure, we can go to the gym once and pump out a weights session. Do we notice any physical changes in our bodies after one session? Unless you’re the Hulk, probably not. However, if we continue to train to a balanced program of weights and cardio and commit to three sessions a week. After some time, you’ll begin to notice your body shift. After even more time, people around you will start to notice. It takes self control and discipline and the reward system in your brain might not be imaginable to you yet. Change is a muscle that has to be exercised to become stronger. There is a way to make good decisions towards change that feel like rewards. You can hack your rewards system with awareness. Being aware at the very moment you’re doing the behaviour you want to change. Say you want to quit smoking. Being aware within the moment of smoking a cigarette, what it smells like, what it tastes like. Smoking tastes awful when you actually pay attention!
You might be afraid that the new changes will make things worse than they already are.
Everyone experiences their own level of fear of change. There is the fear of taking the leap and making change. The fear of staying in the same position forever. The fear of the unknown and leaving your life as it were behind. The fear of regret. The fear of making the right move. The fear of making the wrong move. The fear of any move. The fear is equally as scary for both sides. Fear reminds us of what is important to us. Feeling fear is actually a sign that we care. Use your fear to your advantage. Let fear become your compass for life. If you feel afraid, let that be your confirmation that you’re making the right move. Let fear become the precursor to shining a light on the feeling you’re committing to. If all of the change you want to create will lead you to feelings of happiness. Commit to that feeling. Balancing your fear and commitment as a team, you can navigate towards the change you want to see in your life.
Yes, change is hard. It can feel uncomfortable and even scary at times. But the more we embrace it, the more we will grow and develop as humans. Just think about how much you’ve changed since you were five years old! You may not have liked some of the changes at the time, but now, you’re glad they happened because they led to something better.
Meet Our Contributing Author — Amber Clarke
Amber is the Founder and Mindset Coach of Miracle Mindset Coaching. She is a Certified Coach, Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Certified Practitioner of Matrix Therapies and Certified in Conscious Hypnosis. She also has previously completed a Master of Communication as well as a Bachelor in Business & Commerce (Marketing). Personally and professionally, she’s always been a people person. Curious and constantly on the hunt for more ways to learn, grow and transform. She’s a thirty-something ex-party girl who found her alignment and has made it her mission to help other women do the same. Learn more about her work here.